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Lifting the Curtain on Me and Facebook Live - 048

Aug 30, 2018

I’ve done hour long stand-up comedy shows, acted in plays, and spoken in front of big audiences, but despite all that, I’ve been avoiding doing Facebook Live. I recognise that getting comfortable with doing live video is important for my brand and growing my business. So, I decided to ask Brooke Hender, a cognitive hypnotherapist, to take a look at this issue with me, and I’m sharing what happened in this episode.

I need to let you know that some unexpected things came up for me as we worked through what I thought was the fairly superficial issue of finding Facebook Live a challenge. There were deeper, more significant issues that I hadn’t been aware were driving my feelings, thoughts and behaviour in this area, and I want to say that although I believe that you will find what comes out of this positive, at times it gets quite emotional, and you may find listening to parts of the episode a challenge if you have recently experienced a loss.

I did struggle as to whether to share this episode, both from the perspective of whether it would be useful and interesting to you, but also from the perspective of the personal things that surfaced, and how much of myself I was sharing. In the end I felt it was important to put it out there because I know I’m not alone in struggling with this stuff, and if one person gets some reassurance or insight into their own challenges around public speaking or other areas of their business or life, then it will have been worth it.

What you’ll discover:

  • That many people have doubts and challenges around public speaking and other areas of business, even if they don’t show it.
  • When you use the word ‘should’ in relation to something that you are doing, it’s worth taking a deeper look at what is motivating you in this area.
  • How we can tie up our self-worth with the baggage of others.
  • That we sometimes need to examine whether the things that drive us, and the goals we are aiming for, are actually going to make us happy.
  • How we need to look at what success really means for us, rather than adopting other people’s definitions of success.
  • Why 90% of our behaviour is unconscious, and it’s not necessarily driven by what we think, but more by what we feel and believe.
  • How intellectualising problems is a great defence mechanism.

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